Relationship: DON'T FORCE IT

1. DON'T FORCE SEX

When you try to turn on your spouse and after your best attempt, your spouse shows no interest; don't force sex. It will not end well. You two will find pleasure another day

2. DON'T FORCE CONVERSATIONS

When you can tell your spouse is not in the right frame of mind to have some conversations, don't insist on it. Just because you are ready to talk about it doesn't mean your spouse is too. Right conversations are held at the right time

3. DON'T FORCE CHANGE 

Don't force your spouse to become what you want. The most you can do is inspire and encourage change, not demand it

4. DON'T FORCE RESPONSIBILITY

If your spouse has a habit of coming home late or not spending time with the children, the best approach is not to order him/her to be responsible but communicate to your spouse the good that will happen upon changing a few habits

5. DON'T FORCE SOLUTIONS

If you think you have the best solution to your marriage, don't shove it down your spouse. Walk with him/her to it. When you force, your spouse will repel

6. DON'T FORCE CONNECTIONS

Yes, you want your spouse to be close with your parents, relatives and friends but don't push your spouse to it. Relationships are built naturally, not through coercion 

7. DON'T FORCE HEALING

Healing should not be rushed. Let your spouse heal at his/her pace

8. DON'T FORCE FAITH

Don't insist your spouse to get close to God. You don't lead someone close to God through manipulation but by being close to them

9. DON'T FORCE ROMANCE

When you try to kiss your spouse, flirt with your spouse or be naughty but your spouse is non-responsive; relax. Don't lose your cool. Find out if all is well with him/her

10. DON'T FORCE MARRIAGE 

Getting married is a choice, staying married is a choice too. Don't force your spouse to stay married to you through threats, arm twisting and blackmail. Treat your spouse well and that might make your spouse enjoy life with you