People in Niger most of the time court their cousins for marriage. Before marriage the male cousins wear special and powerful amulets which are supposed to show and heighten their attractiveness to the girl. First the family of the groom gives their “bride price” to the bride’s family and then the couple is consider married. After this a bride stays with her husband until she becomes pregnant, then after she becomes pregnant she returns to her father’s home. Here she will remain for the next 3-4 years. Bride will deliver her baby at her mother’s home and since that moment she becomes a “boofeydo” which in African literally they use it to name people who has committed an error or something bed.
While bride is considering “boofeydo”, she is not permitted to speak or see with her husband or anyone of his family. It is a traditional African sin for him to express any interest in the newborn child or in his new wife. After 2-3 years, bride’s mother will release her to see and speak to her husband. She still will not be permitted to live with her husband or to bring her child with her until the mother can purchase all things that are needed for her home and in the end when these items are purchased, than girl is allowed to go in her new house and live with her husband, and normally taking her child with her.
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